Oftentimes we as achievers set crazy high standards for all areas of our lives: career, education, relationships, finances and even our health. We are used to setting the bar so high, working hard, sacrificing, and surpassing our big goals (even if it doesn’t happen in the timeline we originally wanted). Yes, we all experiences opposition, adversity, and setbacks just like any other person. Despite all challenges, we have a spirit of determination and unwavering perseverance that pushes us forward, even when we do not feel like pushing anymore. Can you relate to this?

1. Set Realistic Expectations

One thing we must remember is that we all have to start somewhere. Do not be so hard on yourself that you don’t allow for your appropriate learning and growing curve. We can probably all relate to when we first started new challenges in our lives. Think back to when you first started your initial career, transitioned into a new position, welcomed home a new baby, learned a new language, started a new marriage, coped with a divorce, served as the caregiver to an ill relative, coped with disease or the loss of a loved one, or maybe decided to reinvent yourself in an area that was way outside of your comfort zone. I’m sure it wasn’t too comfortable initially. I’m also sure there were times you felt so overwhelmed that you were unsure how you would make it through that period successfully. But you stayed the course, despite the ups and downs, and in the process you became better and learned skills that allowed you to adapt and eventually improve. Do you remember that?

2. Use Adversity to Strengthen you and NOT Hold you Back

Oftentimes, we do not want to remember those areas of our lives that cause pain, so we push forward as hard as possible at any chance of relief. It is in those times that you add skills to your toolkit which make you better prepared and more capable to handle the next portion of your journey.
My message to you is to start where you are, and do not be embarrassed or ashamed to admit where you are in your health, seek help, and take small steps in a positive direction. Your journey is individualized and unique, just like you. What works for someone else, may not work for you (and vice versa). Don’t compare yourself to others appear further along in their journey. Use it for encouragement, that if they can do it, so can you.

  1. Embrace where you are now without judgement or regret
  2. Seek help in whatever form or area you need it most
  3. Set small achievable goals
  4. When you fall down, don’t be so hard on yourself. Get back up and keep taking steps forward.

Here’s to your success!
Felice Carlton